Thursday, March 15, 2012
I'm moving!
Something that irritates me, and some advice
So here's a thing that bugs me. I am not a sheep, and so many others are. I could be referring to a lot of things with a statement like that, but in this case I'm talking about daring to not like something the majority does. Whether this is a series of books, or a television show, or a famous person, you name it. I usually get the same response, which is indicative of an unwillingness to accept that I have a different opinion. Here is an example of the response I've received multiple times from multiple people over the years on this one issue. I'll say to my friends that no, I haven't seen the new Harry Potter movie because I don't like Harry Potter (yeah it's true, deal with it). What's the response? "Oh, which movies have you seen? Have you read the books?" These are trick questions, it doesn't matter what I've seen or what I've read. Invariably, unless I say I have seen them ALL or read them ALL it's not good enough. I need to see one more movie, read one more book. This pisses me off.
One reason I say I'm not a sheep is not just because I give myself permission to like or dislike things that are not in accord with the majority, but that I can accept when others do the same. BTW I usually handle this personal assault with more restraint than what I want to say. I will tell folks that I root for Harry's death in every movie just to jab em, but I don't tell them what I really feel, which is that I wish Voldemort would take his wand, shove it so far up Harry's ass that he's screaming in pain and then hit the nuke button. See how nice I am? :) I did like the character of Snape though, he had the most depth.
I absolutely love Dante's Divine Comedy trilogy. Didn't know they were making trilogies in the early 1300's did ya? They were making trilogies way before that, but that's a different blog entry. Anyway I have scarcely had a better reading experience in my life, and that's a significant statement for someone who's as big a reader as I am. But when I tell others about it excitedly and they say they tried but didn't like it, do I encourage them to read even more? No. Why? Because I'm an adult! I have the ability to distinguish between wanting to give someone the opportunity to enjoy something I have enjoyed, and browbeating someone into doing something they are definitely not interested in. Other people don't seem to have this ability. One more example. I have a good friend who absolutely hates Liam Neeson. Hates him. He doesn't want him to die in a plane crash or anything, but I don't think he'd shed a lot of tears if Mr. Neeson did. Anway, when I see an enjoyable movie with him it, I don't go and encourage my friend to watch it. See how easy that is?
Why am I writing about this? It happened today. There's a very well-known anime series that I don't care for, Rurouni Kenshin. I don't care specifically for the main character. It's a pretty long series that went on for 95 episodes and spawned an animated movie or two. I watched every single episode of the series anyway, and the movies. Why? Because I knew someday I would run into folks who love it, and when I said I didn't they would encourage me to "watch more, just watch more, you'll get into it!" With great satisfaction I informed him that I had seen every single episode of the show, and the movies, and I didn't like it. This might sound a bit strange to you, that I would go to that much trouble, but--yeah ok, it is a bit strange. To his credit he handled it well (of course did he have much choice?), and said something like we all have our tastes.
So here's the essence of this post. Folks, if you are telling someone about something you do like and you hear that they don't, drop it. You don't need to reassert that you like that thing and the reasons why. They already know that, and as likely as not they'll just reassert that they don't. Especially don't try to convince them they will enjoy something just because you do. It's insulting to the person, and it makes you sound self-centered and frankly immature. It's okay for you to have different tastes than even your closest friends and family, in fact it's healthy. Take it from a licensed therapist. Or not. :)
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
I love the Kindle, but...
Just finished ME3
My opinion on the Iraq War
Friday, June 26, 2009
So I finally own a cell phone
According to the excellent book "The Tipping Point", the year in which everyone and their brother started buying cell phones was 1998, which means that by 1999 people were on my back to get one. "Why should I?" was my response. Why would I want to give up what little free time I have and be chained down by a cell phone? Why should I give up the freedom of being unreachable? I just read an editorial on cnn's website about how we've gone from a 5-day work week to essentially a 24-hour-a-day work week because of phone calls, texts, etc from our boss and co-workers asking us to do things...and we actually do them! "Just turn off your phone" is the response I get, but that actually is not good enough. The understanding is that if you call or text someone, they will check their phone soon enough and get back to you. If they don't, well, that's frankly an insult. They'd better account for why they didn't get back to you, and they certainly better not say they didn't get it in the first place! After all, don't most of us keep our cell phones on, most of the time? Ever wonder why some jobs even give you a cell phone--they're not doing you a favor. And it's not just work, it's your friends too, not to mention a girlfriend. Anyone had a fight with their significant other and gotten a text? You'd better read it or its beaucoups trouble for you. So even with your cell phone off, you are still tethered, chained down by social expectations that you have to be on guard against for about 16 hours a day if you expect to get any sleep. You had better be immediately available or shortly available for feedback on any number of topics every single day of the week for the rest of your life. Then there's the cost. I can have a landline in my home for not more than $30 a month, the connection is always perfect, I have an answering machine for messages, unlimited minutes, NO contracts, and distance from the social web if I want it.
So why, if I feel this way did I get a cell phone? There are some good arguments for owning one. A friend of mine was driving home from Spokane a few weeks ago, at night with his family, and his car broke down in the middle of nowhere. If he hadn't had a cell phone to call a tow truck, it wouldn't have been an easy night. Sometimes there are emergencies that you do need to be notified of. If you're meeting friends at a new place, it's nice to be able to coordinate where you are with where you need to be. If you have several friends internationally it's probably cheaper to keep in touch with them via cell phone. These reasons I've known about for the past ten years. When I finally bought a cell, I found out how roped in you are with contracts, and the raquet you get sucked in to if you want to get ringtones. But overall I don't mind owning one, and it is actually pretty cool to text people, to keep in touch with ppl in other states without a calling card or long distance charges. But basically, I gave up.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
My Birfday!
May 9th...perhaps the greatest day of all! It was--and is--the day of my birth! I had an awesome pre-birthday birthday thing last night, in the which I acquired four (4!) new books, and watched the new Star Trek movie.
Capsule review: surprisingly entertaining movie. As a Star Trek-o-phile I'm a self-appointed judge to most things Star Trek, and most of the Star Trek stuff sucks. Okay, the original series was good, but I think I was just born too late to enjoy it...like I watch the show, some of the themes are good, ya know, but that corny music comes on that's likes twice as loud as the dialogue on the show, then a girl comes on and the camera has vaseline all over it to try and make her look good, and then I just tune out. Next Generation, still my favorite television show of all time--awesomeness. DS9, didn't suck as much as I thought it would, but still it's lost some of the ideals of the entire show, mostly due do Roddenberry dying. Voyager, well, I did like the Doctor and Neelix, other than that still a step down. Enterprise, now we're getting to the point where I'd rather be stabbed in both eyes. So when they advertised the movie I'm thinkin to myself "I bet it's just an action movie, everyone's fighting all the time, no social or moral dimension which is what made Star Trek great in the first place." I have to admit, there was a buttload of action, and there was no social or moral dimension to the movie--and yet I liked it! Very entertaining, the director found just a bunch of excellent actors to fill the shoes of the characters, and the characterizations were just about spot on. Plot...well, the plot was pretty standard fare, but the dialogue was so good that it actually made me interested in it, which is nice. The camera work overall was very good, quick but not so quick that you can't even follow what is happening (i.e. Quantum of Solace), and the special effects are of course first rate. It's not much deeper than a typical well-done summer popcorn movie, but to the Star Trek franchise it is certainly what was promised: a breath of fresh air.